There is a great metaphor to describe our attention in manifesting. The Universe as a restaurant.Sounds delicious, doesn’t it?
How does this fit in with law of attraction? It’s about choice.
Ever gone to a buffet style place and while browsing your favorite food choices, suddenly you’re assaulted by a dish of liver and onions?!
It’s traumatizing and it takes me weeks to get over…wait, no it doesn’t. I simply move past and focus on the food I want.
We do this in life but don’t always realize we’re doing it. We’re taught to focus on our problems.
If we don’t acknowledge them, talk about them, worry about them and use them to justify our feelings then we aren’t being adults.
Worrying is a funny energy, isn’t it? I read a quote once that said, “Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair, sure it gives you something to do but you don’t get anywhere!”
Fixating on what you don’t want just brings more awareness of that in your reality. Imagine this, you are sitting between two friends. You are having a conversation with one friend about a surprise bill that popped up and you don’t know where you’re going to get the money. Your friend empathizes with you and even joins in with their issue at work that’s bothering them. Your other friend says, “You know, I could use some help moving some furniture this weekend and I can pay you.” That of course is a possible solution for your problem. However, what you do instead is continue to complain about the issue itself.
We don’t realize this because it’s so ingrained in us to narrate what is going on in our life, especially the drama. Like I said before, some of us were taught that if you weren’t stressing about a problem then you weren’t ‘handling’it. But how do you handle something out of your control? You can’t.
What you can do is let it go and trust that it will all work out, because it will. But how will it work out? I don’t know. You don’t know. It’s a very uncomfortable feeling…at first, after that it can be fun. Wait, did I just say that dealing with this incredibly terrible issue can be FUN? Somebody is out of their mind!
Look. It does sound crazy but it really does make sense. We’ve established that what we focus on, we manifest into our reality. Think of your attention as a lightbulb, ever seen the bug party at night on a lit up deck? Your focus attracts.
As strong as your focus is, you throw in emotions and now it’s supercharged. Joy is pretty powerful but so is fear, which can feel more comfortable too. The devil we know, right?
I said this would be fun right? Here goes.
Next time you find yourself worrying about an issue or even worse, talking about it, give yourself a break, like an actual work break. I will tell myself, “Okay, I’m putting myself in a time out bubble. There is nothing I can or have to do in the next 15 minutes anyways, so I’m going to stop thinking of this problem for a set amount of time and I can come right back to it…if I want, when the time is up.”
This satisfies that part of your subconscious that wants us to pay attention, so it will quit nagging. Next, is the fun part. This can be done in your head but I think it works better if you write it down. Plus you can refer to it whenever you need another time out! Make a list of anything you would rather be doing than thinking about that problem.
- Paid day off from work.
- Massage.
- Total spa day!
- Flying to Bali!
- A resort in Bali with a spa on the beach!
- Bringing my friends along!
- Receiving one of those gigantic checks for an insane amount of money!
- Test driving my dream car.
I think you get the point. Now, so you might be thinking, ‘Yeah that was a fun fantasy but I gotta get back to the real world now where that problem is stamping its foot and glaring at me like I’m in trouble.’
But hold on, that problem isn’t the same. When you shifted your focus away you gave it less power, it’s less formidable and more manageable. Plus, by having fun thoughts that bring up your vibration you are opening yourself up to inspiration, and inspiration leads to solutions!
I was blessed with the opportunity to work in a seasonal retail store after the company I worked for closed with no notice. This job involved a considerable commute, meaning a lot of time to daydream. Anytime there was traffic I would think, “If I worked from home, I would already be at work!”. Whenever I had to pay for lunch or gas or any other necessity another thought, “If I worked from home I wouldn’t be driving, therefore, no gas money. I could walk downstairs to the kitchen for snacks and meals.”
I had no idea WHAT job would allow this. Wasn’t sure if I had skills necessary for that type of job but it sure did carry me thru some rough and stressful days, the HOPE. Within a few weeks of getting the seasonal job I was referred by a friend for a remote job that I happened to have the skills from our previous employment together. Not only was this job from home but the pay was pretty great too.
I would like to say I took my own advice throughout but to be honest, I continued some negative attention on the original situation that led me to needing the seasonal job. Anytime anyone would bring it up I would disparage how the events played out, assigning blame and renewing my anger. I’ve worked on clearing that energy and feel much better.
Life has ups and downs, but just like a rollercoaster, it’s all part of the same ride. Give attention to what you want, express gratitude for what you have and everything will work out in the best way possible.
Until next time – Love and Blessings – Karma
Karma Marie 