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Choosing your reality

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Your reality is but one of infinite possibilities. That’s right, infinite.

There is a reality that exists right now where you are living your ‘dream’ life and another that is so much worse than the one you are currently acknowledging and everything in between.

I said acknowledging, yes. You align with what you focus on.

Think about your tv, there are always multiple channels available = multiple realities.

You select the show you want to watch and hit play = your focus.

So why do we get stuck watching a show we don’t want to see again? The program that plays on a loop.

Our subconscious wants to keep us safe, predictability is safe, surprise is risky. Ever feel procrastination when attempting something new? Going after a job that pays more than you ever made before? Asking someone out? Starting a new fitness routine?

So your subconscious runs this program of expectation. It’s not what you want but it’s predictable. Go to bed at this time. Wake up at this time. Start work at this time. Etc…

So how do you break out of this loop?

FIRST STEP: DETACHMENT. You have to detach yourself from the reality you are stuck in. When an unwanted experience shows up, move your attention along; keep shopping.

SECOND STEP: CONNECT. Meditate and connect to God, Source Energy, the Universe, whatever you call your higher power. Connection empowers with loving, creative energy. Empowerment helps you determine what experiences you want to have while here on Earth. You can do this in as little as 5 minutes! Envision your ideal reality.

THIRD STEP: ANCHOR. Once you have decided which reality you want to experience, hook into it by focusing on signs, clues, etc… Remember you align with what you focus on. Count your blessings, especially those that are part of this new reality.

Let’s use the Wizard of Oz as an example. If Dorothy is in Oz and acknowledges she’s in Oz she would be detached from the reality of home.

She decides she’s had enough of Oz and wants to return home, only not the same home as when she left. She envisions her ideal home.

By focusing on the aspects of home she anchors to it.

When I first started thinking about owning a house, I was nowhere near what would be considered close to being able to fulfill it. However, I started a brand new job in October 2022 and we were able to close on a home 9 months later!

I had to DETACH myself from the belief that I was only a renter, I then CONNECTED with source and my imagination – closing my eyes and envisioning sitting on my back deck of my ideal home drinking coffee and then ANCHOR myself into the reality by acknowledging the clues and signs that showed up like the candle holders I found in a store that I bought as a show of faith for our house and never put them up in our apartment or the image on my vision board that was almost exact match to the house we purchased.

IMPORTANT STUFF:

DETACHMENT means not investing yourself into the unwanted scenarios and experiences that will ANCHOR you into the unwanted reality. That means no falling down the rabbit hole on social media, tv, conversations with others, etc…

Imagine you are playing a game and in that game you are driving a car towards a goal. It moves where you direct it to, not necessarily where you want it to. READ THAT AGAIN. Your FOCUS determines where you are heading, not your wishing. If you start to go off course, it’s okay, just correct by refocusing on the goal.

The way you start your day plays a big part in how your day will end. I try to start every morning with a diet rich in positive content. That means I’m listening to morning meditation, motivational speakers like Wayne Dyer, Gabby Bernstein or Christie Marie Sheldon or music. I love playing upbeat house music during my shower. I’ll also go through my gratitude list. When you count your blessings, you receive more blessings.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

As I’ve been on this shifting reality journey I’ve found I like to give myself some visual cues to help sell the new reality. I like to do this at night so I see them first thing in the morning.

I’ll rearrange furniture or decorations or add something, like a new shower curtain with bright butterflies. Seeing the change really ANCHORS in the new reality, slowly but surely.

I hope this helps you on your own journey. Let me know if all or any of this connected to you. Do you have questions? Do you have answers? I’d love to hear from you.

Love and Blessings

OUT with the BAD – IN with the GOOD

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Did you know that we carry memories of experiences in our body and they can manifest as pain or discomfort?

Sometimes these memories aren’t even obvious, like maybe when you were 5 you were told you couldn’t have an ice cream cone and it was devastating to you because you really wanted that double scoop of cookies and cream.

Years later when you revisit the memory and release it, you feel a shift in your body, a part of you that you never realized was tense, because it had been there for so long it felt normal. It’s an incredible feeling that I have experienced first hand. Not only did a part of my lower back relax but I lost my fear of heights, too!

I’ve learned many different methods from many different teachers but the best success I have is through first identifying the issue, acknowledging what it is, releasing the attachment to it, then healing or clearing it.

Now, I am not suggesting you re experience the event, especially if it’s traumatic, though you probably are experiencing some of it on the daily on some smalll level.

What I am suggesting is to treat it like cleaning your house. Imagine you are cleaning your attic.

You IDENTIFY dust and clutter on the floor, you ACKNOWLEDGE this isn’t something that you want or need, you sweep it up and RELEASE it into the trash can, thereby CLEARING the floor and space.

This is how I do this for myself. I feel pain or discomfort in my body, say my neck. I used to think this pain was a normal result from sitting at a computer all day but I’m able to release it pretty easily, which tells me it isn’t normal.

Step 1: I IDENTIFY the source, let’s call it ‘feeling taken advantage of’. Say you loaned your sister a large sum of money last year and not only hasn’t she attempted to pay it back but she hasn’t even mentioned it. This experience is full of resentment.

Step 2: ACKNOWLEDGE this isn’t something that serves you, in fact it hurts you the longer you carry it around with you.

Step 3: RELEASE your attachment to this experience. This part is very important. We all have our stories that we use to justify our feelings, usually this is from a victim perspective, someone hurt us with their actions or words and we carry it with us as some part of our identity. Once we decide this isn’t to our benefit, this doesn’t help us feel empowered, positive and full of love, we can release this burden.

Remember that this is your perspective of the situation and they have theirs. Maybe they aren’t aware of how you are feeling. Maybe they thought it was a gift or a loan that didn’t have definitive terms. Try to soften your perspective and it is easier to release.

Step 4: CLEAR or HEAL the negative energy- There are 2 ways I do this depending on how I’m feeling. 1) CLEAR – I imagine it’s turned to ash and floats away or HEAL – I infuse it with love until it changes into something positive and beneficial. I tend to do more of the second nowadays but both feel great!

Keep in mind, just like cleaning your home, this is an ongoing process. Also, don’t be surprised if you clear something from 3 days ago and it comes up again. This usually indicates that the root issue is still there from before. We tend to repeat patterns from our childhood.

The tension from not getting that promotion from work could be stemming from not getting that ice cream. So keep clearing and healing until you feel better.

Let me know in the comments if you have tried this and what your results were. We all learn from each other!

UNTIL NEXT TIME – LOVE AND BLESSINGS!

Let me know how this works for you in the comments.

WHY JUDGING DOESN’T SERVE YOU

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We all do it from time to time. That inner critic comes out with an opinion about how someone is dressed or what they are saying or doing.

Sometimes this is done as a whisper to your friend in the moment, disguised as a random general post on social media, said directly to the person it pertains to or not said outloud at all.

It feels harmless when it’s only in your head, it’s not like they heard you anyways. Or especially when it’s a celebrity? Because not only did they not hear you but I mean they deserve both the good and bad that comes with fame, right?

Well, surprise, it’s not harmless, and it’s two fold.

For one, that person is receiving the energy you are sending, so if you thought they were a jerk before, whoah look out, because you just intensified it. Like fighting fire with fire.

And secondly, you are sending that negative energy out around you, indiscriminately, not just to the person you are critical of, not that that’s okay as we’ve established already, but family and friends and innocent bystanders. Not to mention the damage to yourself.

Whenever you judge someone, it’s coming from a low vibrational place. I mean it has to, you can’t be flying high in the vibration of joy or love and have the inspiration to judge someone, not even yourself.

Think of it this way, ‘What comes out of you, is inside you’. Wayne Dyer used to say if you squeeze an orange you get orange juice. You don’t want that negative limiting energy in or out of you. It doesn’t serve anyone, least of all you.

My process now is whenever I feel the need to criticize someone, even a celebrity, I stop and ask myself, WHY?

Is there some part of me I’m projecting onto someone else, as a way to not own it and handle it? If so, then I need to send that part of me love and then expand that love energy out into the world and then let it come back in again!

I have found that a lot of the people I have had the biggest problems with were those who didn’t cater to the opinions of others, they dressed how they wanted, spoke their mind and didn’t limit their choices in life, they were happy as they were and I was jealous of that.

So be kind to others and be kind to yourself. Love and Blessings!

May I Take Your Order?

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There is a great metaphor to describe our attention in manifesting. The Universe as a restaurant.Sounds delicious, doesn’t it?
How does this fit in with law of attraction? It’s about choice.

Ever gone to a buffet style place and while browsing your favorite food choices, suddenly you’re assaulted by a dish of liver and onions?!
It’s traumatizing and it takes me weeks to get over…wait, no it doesn’t. I simply move past and focus on the food I want.

We do this in life but don’t always realize we’re doing it. We’re taught to focus on our problems.
If we don’t acknowledge them, talk about them, worry about them and use them to justify our feelings then we aren’t being adults.
Worrying is a funny energy, isn’t it? I read a quote once that said, “Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair, sure it gives you something to do but you don’t get anywhere!”

Fixating on what you don’t want just brings more awareness of that in your reality. Imagine this, you are sitting between two friends. You are having a conversation with one friend about a surprise bill that popped up and you don’t know where you’re going to get the money. Your friend empathizes with you and even joins in with their issue at work that’s bothering them. Your other friend says, “You know, I could use some help moving some furniture this weekend and I can pay you.” That of course is a possible solution for your problem. However, what you do instead is continue to complain about the issue itself.

We don’t realize this because it’s so ingrained in us to narrate what is going on in our life, especially the drama. Like I said before, some of us were taught that if you weren’t stressing about a problem then you weren’t ‘handling’it. But how do you handle something out of your control? You can’t.

What you can do is let it go and trust that it will all work out, because it will. But how will it work out? I don’t know. You don’t know. It’s a very uncomfortable feeling…at first, after that it can be fun. Wait, did I just say that dealing with this incredibly terrible issue can be FUN? Somebody is out of their mind!

Look. It does sound crazy but it really does make sense. We’ve established that what we focus on, we manifest into our reality. Think of your attention as a lightbulb, ever seen the bug party at night on a lit up deck? Your focus attracts.

As strong as your focus is, you throw in emotions and now it’s supercharged. Joy is pretty powerful but so is fear, which can feel more comfortable too. The devil we know, right?
I said this would be fun right? Here goes.

Next time you find yourself worrying about an issue or even worse, talking about it, give yourself a break, like an actual work break. I will tell myself, “Okay, I’m putting myself in a time out bubble. There is nothing I can or have to do in the next 15 minutes anyways, so I’m going to stop thinking of this problem for a set amount of time and I can come right back to it…if I want, when the time is up.”

This satisfies that part of your subconscious that wants us to pay attention, so it will quit nagging. Next, is the fun part. This can be done in your head but I think it works better if you write it down. Plus you can refer to it whenever you need another time out! Make a list of anything you would rather be doing than thinking about that problem.

  1. Paid day off from work.
  2. Massage.
  3. Total spa day!
  4. Flying to Bali!
  5. A resort in Bali with a spa on the beach!
  6. Bringing my friends along!
  7. Receiving one of those gigantic checks for an insane amount of money!
  8. Test driving my dream car.

I think you get the point. Now, so you might be thinking, ‘Yeah that was a fun fantasy but I gotta get back to the real world now where that problem is stamping its foot and glaring at me like I’m in trouble.’

But hold on, that problem isn’t the same. When you shifted your focus away you gave it less power, it’s less formidable and more manageable. Plus, by having fun thoughts that bring up your vibration you are opening yourself up to inspiration, and inspiration leads to solutions!

I was blessed with the opportunity to work in a seasonal retail store after the company I worked for closed with no notice. This job involved a considerable commute, meaning a lot of time to daydream. Anytime there was traffic I would think, “If I worked from home, I would already be at work!”. Whenever I had to pay for lunch or gas or any other necessity another thought, “If I worked from home I wouldn’t be driving, therefore, no gas money. I could walk downstairs to the kitchen for snacks and meals.”

I had no idea WHAT job would allow this. Wasn’t sure if I had skills necessary for that type of job but it sure did carry me thru some rough and stressful days, the HOPE. Within a few weeks of getting the seasonal job I was referred by a friend for a remote job that I happened to have the skills from our previous employment together. Not only was this job from home but the pay was pretty great too.

I would like to say I took my own advice throughout but to be honest, I continued some negative attention on the original situation that led me to needing the seasonal job. Anytime anyone would bring it up I would disparage how the events played out, assigning blame and renewing my anger. I’ve worked on clearing that energy and feel much better.

Life has ups and downs, but just like a rollercoaster, it’s all part of the same ride. Give attention to what you want, express gratitude for what you have and everything will work out in the best way possible.

Until next time – Love and Blessings – Karma